Submitted by: Q | March 2005



     One thing I’ve learned in life is that sometimes a little bit can go a long way. One of the main problems that guys deal with when trying to talk to girls is that they don’t know how. That’s what they say at least. Being a guy and all its understandable, but it’s probably one of the worst excuses you can use. Lets do a quick math lesson. Say you’re 18 and you’ve been talking since you were….what, 2? You shouldn’t have a problem talking to ANYONE. Why? Because you’ve been doing it all your life! Do you think that after 16 seasons Michael Jordan was questioning his ability to make a jump shot? Doubt it. I think the problem is not that we don’t know how to talk to girls, but that we don’t know how to approach girls. So, we’re going to take a look at that.

     Its been a long time since I’ve had problems approaching random people, but honestly, most girls just don’t seem approachable. Theres no way around it. Unless you’re psychic you have no way of telling how a girl is going to react if you approach her to start a conversation. Its one of those situations where you have to just go for it and see where it takes you. Its ok to be nervous or concerned that you could potentially make a fool of yourself. You know what I say though? Do it anyway. At this point, hell, at least you’re making an impression, right? At least you’ll be giving her something to remember you by. Whether good or bad, its better than not even being noticed at all.

     Talking to girls isn’t rocket science. I think a huge problem is that most guys overthink what they’re going to do. You don’t have to go out of your way to be overly smooth. Take a look at the title of this article and note the part that says “no game whatsoever.” Trying too hard usually just leads to a negative outcome. If you’re having trouble talking to girls the last thing you need to do is wing some shit. You can’t decide to be James Bond at the last minute. Be yourself, that’s probably the best advice I can ever give you. You’re yourself 24 hours a day, 365 days a year. You’re a pro at that shit, take advantage of it. Little known fact is that when girls are babies a microchip is implanted in their brains. This chip is activated by hormones when they hit puberty and in turn allows them to sense all forms of bullshit from members of the opposite sex. True story…ask about it. Anyways, now that you’ve got a little advice on how to go about approaching and getting in the right frame of mind to do so, we’re going to take a look at a few more complex elements.

     Don’t be a dick about it. Theres an exception to this though. Occasionally you will get away with approaching a girl like an asshole because they’ll stick around to see how much stupid shit is going to come out of your mouth. Lets not entertain that possibility though. When you first approach a girl you should greet her in a way that’ll let her know that you’re interested in talking to her. Don’t greet her like you’re desperate or dying to get laid. If you’re going to talk to her, talk to her. Make eye contact, don’t stare at her body, don’t do any retarded shit like that…not at this point at least.

     Be perceptive. Its wrong to assume things about people but you can usually tell a little bit about a person based on their appearance. Use that to your advantage. If you can tell that you 2 have something in common or a similar taste in something, use that as a conversation starter. Make sure you don’t bore her to death, having a sense of humor never hurts. Being funny isn’t everyone’s strong suit but at least try to do what you can to keep her interest. None of this stuff is going to work for everybody, but it’s a push in the right direction. There are always going to be situations where things don’t work out your way. Theres always going to be that 1 stuck up girl that isn’t going to wanna listen to anything you have to say. There really isn’t much you can do about that, it happens.